Kate Beckinsale Shares Poignant Post About Grieving Your Dad On Father’s Day

Father’s Day comes with a mixed bag of emotions for those who have lost their fathers

Today is Father’s Day, and while many people everywhere will be celebrating and honoring their dads, for many more it’s a day of mixed emotions. Especially if you’ve lost your father, like Kate Beckinsale did, when she was just a child. Beckinsale took to her Instagram account to share a heartbreaking message about what it was like for her — and many children — on days like today.

The actress shared a photo of herself as a little girl, standing next to her mother at her father’s memorial service. Her father, actor Richard Beckinsale, died of a massive heart attack in 1979 when Kate was just five years old.

“Don’t be fooled by ‘children are resilient,'” she begins the post. “This is my mother and me attending the “celebration of life “ memorial service for my dad. I look fine. I was shattered, heartbroken and shocked.”

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Don’t be fooled by “children are resilient”. This is my mother and me attending the “celebration of life “ memorial service for my dad. I look fine. I was shattered, heartbroken and shocked.Every time Father’s Day comes around I remember my father with such love and longing ,and I remember the deep shame, loneliness and self loathing when I was excused from aged 5 onwards from making Father’s Day cards at school. I didn’t know anyone else who had lost a parent and there was no number to call to find advice on how to support grieving children . @kelliauerbach sent me her @the_newyork_times article about losing both her parents before the age of 20. It’s moving and beautifully written and I really advise reading it,if Father’s Day (or Mother’s Day ) is a painful issue for you or your children. The amount of shame children carry for having a dead parent is astonishing . Resources such as the National Alliance for Grieving Children (@childrengrieve )at childrengrieve.org in the US and Winston’s wish at winstonswish.org ( @winstonswish )in the UK give invaluable support to kids in this position, at a time when the rest of the family are grieving themselves. Big hugs to everyone who feels like shit as this lovely holiday comes around . You may not be able to buy a card . You’re in the Dead Fathers Club that none of us wanted to join and yet here we all are. I’m glad we have each other . Love to all xx

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“Every time Father’s Day comes around I remember my father with such love and longing, and I remember the deep shame, loneliness and self-loathing when I was excused from aged 5 onwards from making Father’s Day cards at school,” she writes. “I didn’t know anyone else who had lost a parent and there was no number to call to find advice on how to support grieving children.”

Losing a parent is a special kind of hell for anyone, but it’s especially tragic when you experience such a profound loss as a young child. Kids don’t know how to make sense of their grief — hell, many adults don’t. When you don’t have the vocabulary, emotional intelligence, and support that comes with age and time, losing your parent like Beckinsale did becomes a defining obstacle you spend the rest of your life trying to process.

“The amount of shame children carry for having a dead parent is astonishing,” she continues. “Resources such as the National Alliance for Grieving Children (@childrengrieve) at childrengrieve.org in the US and Winston’s wish at winstonswish.org (@winstonswish ) in the UK give invaluable support to kids in this position, at a time when the rest of the family are grieving themselves.”

According to ChildrenGrieve.org, childhood grief remains one of society’s most overlooked and least understood issues. The lack of awareness only adds to the grief children endure among their bereaved family as well. Children Grieve aims to “redefine the way our world addresses grief.” They hope to educate and empower people to play a supportive role in the life of each child or teen dealing with a death loss.

Beckinsale’s mother eventually remarried and it appears that she, her mom, and her stepdad are close-knit, which is wonderful.

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What a fam what a fam ❤

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But it’s so important that on holidays like Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, we keep in mind that people we know who have experienced parent loss (and estrangement as well) are likely struggling. Support is key during times like this.

“Big hugs to everyone who feels like shit as this lovely holiday comes around,” Beckinsale concludes. “You may not be able to buy a card. You’re in the Dead Fathers Club that none of us wanted to join and yet here we all are. I’m glad we have each other. Love to you all.”

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JLo Singing A Duet With Her Daughter On Tour Will Bring You To Actual Tears

Watching JLo as a proud mama will have you reaching for a box of tissues ASAP

If there’s one thing we know for sure, it’s that the genes run strong with the Lopez-Anthony kids. Take JLo’s daughter, Emme, for example. She’s already proven she’s got the singing chops to hold up to her mom and dad, Marc Anthony, and now she gets to see what having star power is really like. Her mom brought her up on stage to sing a duet for the opening night of JLo’s new tour, and it’s everything.

Lopez posted a video to her Instagram account, and you can see some serious mother/daughter magic happening. They’re both wearing beautiful, flowy red gowns. Their hair is beautiful and flowy. And, because we’re the luckiest audience in the world, we get to hear just how beautiful their singing voices are together.

“I can’t take it!” Lopez captioned the video, sharing the hashtags #Limitless and #ProudMama — because OMG, how could she not be bursting at the seams?! Emme’s voice is so pure and yet so strong, she’s definitely got the family talent.

The best part is when Emme goes off on and nails a few high notes, and JLo turns to the audience as if to say, “Can you believe this girl? That’s MY girl!” and that, coupled with the part where the beaming mama crouches down to the floor of the stage so her little girl can shine, is when Niagra Falls began pouring out of my eyeballs.

Last month, Lopez shared a video showing a day in her life as she prepared for her “It’s My Party” tour, and part of the video shows 11-year-old Emme getting a vocal lesson. She belts out Alicia Keys’ “If I Ain’t Got You” right in front of her teacher and her mom like it’s absolutely no problem whatsoever, and it’s just so good. (Skip ahead to the 4:07 mark to watch her sing like a pro.)

Aside from what’s sure to be a worldwide, sensational tour and having pretty awesome kids, Lopez is also set to marry her longtime love, Alex Rodriguez, sometime in the near future.

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And the two have already proven they’re experts when it comes to co-parenting and co-existing with their exes in a respectful and pleasant way — check out this adorable display of family unity at a recital for Lopez and Anthony’s son, Max.

After all this sweetness and love going on with JLo, ARod, and even Marc Anthony, all we have is one last question: Can we join this amazing family? PLEASE?

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Amy Schumer Proves Moms Work Harder Than Anyone In This Puke-Filled Vid

Amy Schumer continues to keep motherhood real by sharing a hilarious puke montage for her Emmy consideration campaign

Before she got pregnant, Amy Schumer kept it real about everything from dating and sex to just simply what’s it’s like to be a human woman. Now that she’s married and a mom, she’s made it more than clear that the truth train isn’t going to stop, or even slow down, just because she’s made a few more traditional choices.

Her new Netflix special, Growing, was filmed when the comedian was super pregnant with her son, and covers many of the darkly funny things about carrying a living thing in your uterus — and since her baby, Gene, was born a month ago, she’s been honest about everything from childbirth to being a working mom to pumping breast milk.

Like, extremely honest.

Now, as celebrities and shows begin releasing For Your Consideration videos and messages for the upcoming 2019 Emmys, Schumer’s campaign speaks deeply to any working mom who balances family and career. It also speak to the soul of any person who’s suffered from hyperemesis gravidarum, the extreme morning sickness that followed Schumer through her pregnancy.

Content warning: puking. A lot of puking.

The video opens with a beautiful waterfall, which we won’t realize is sort of like a river throwing up for a few more seconds. Then we pan to Schumer, looking radiantly pregnant.

“Oh, hi. It’s me, Amy Schumer. I’m just staring at a waterfall, like you do when you’re pregnant,” she begins, with calm music soaring in the background. “I just wanted to say thank you so much for your consideration and I just really wish I could be out there. I couldn’t make it out to LA, for obvious reasons, but I want to wish all the comedians the best of luck. It’s a great pool this year, and I would say we all worked probably equally hard.”

The video then jarringly switches to a vomit montage (we didn’t think we’d be typing that phrase when we got up this morning). We see Amy barfing into a variety of bags and trashcans and toilets. We see Amy barfing in a variety cars and theaters and green rooms and gyms and waiting rooms. We see Amy barfing in sweatpants and cocktail dresses and hospital gowns.

We see her doing stand-up next to a trash can.

We see her getting hooked up to fluids in a hospital room.

We see her throwing up so hard she pops the blood vessels in her eyes.

And then we’re back to the waterfall.

“I really wish I could have been there, but I’ve just been so busy… Growing,” she concludes, referencing the amazing show she created during her illness.

(Which, by the way, you should watch if you haven’t already, because it’s hilarious.)

We are so here for Amy getting an Emmy nomination. Not just because she’s worked so hard, and not just because she’s shown the world how hard it is to be a mom and a comic (as opposed to be a guy who… just does comedy), but because she’s one of the best and funniest stand-up comedians out there and she deserves it.

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Moms Stressed About Milk Output Need To Try This Genius Pumping Hack

You know how a watched pot never boils? Well, a watched bottle may not fill according to this pumping hack

Say what you will about the ups and downs of feeding infants, most moms will agree that one of the worst and hardest aspects of breastfeeding is when you have to pump. It often requires a lot of equipment, it’s noisy, it’s hard to do away from home, it takes forever, and let’s face it: you have a machine sucking your nipples. An added frustration? Sometimes it can be hard to get even a few ounces pumped, even when you know you have more to give.

There are plenty of pumping tips and tricks, but here’s one we hadn’t heard before, courtesy of the Milk and Motherhood Facebook page. Since it posted this weekend, the post has received 10,000 likes, 3,600 comments, and 8,000 shares.

The pumping hack is ridiculously simple: to stop stressing about how much milk you’re pumping, simply put a sock over the bottle and stop worrying about it. Worrying and stress can affect your ability to produce milk, and taking your mind off of the pump completely can help.

Johanna Sargeant, the author of the post and voice behind the Milk and Motherhood website is a Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) in Zurich, Switzerland. She thought of the hack while pumping for her own baby and trying to increase her supply.

“When I was told to pump after feeding to boost supply, I’d sit there and watch,” she wrote. “I’d double pump for twenty minutes after ever feed, and become more and more demoralised at the lack of milk in that bottle. I realised that, for my own mental health, I needed to stop watching! Easier said than done. Enter the baby sock.” 

She continues:

“Now I advise mamas to put a sock over their pumping bottle, and it has been getting incredible results. Some women are reporting often 2-3 times more milk when they remove themselves mentally from the result of their pumping session! We know that oxytocin release is inhibited by stress, and oxytocin release is required for letdowns, so if you find you are getting stressed while watching, try it!”

We love how perfectly a baby sock fits over small pumping bottles — and we bet that an adult sock would fit nicely over the larger-sized bottles, too. But that’s certainly not the only way you can cover your bottles. A nursing blanket, or any blanket at all, really, can be draped over the whole operation so you don’t have to wait to see each and every drop collect and fall.

Sargeant acknowledges that this goes against the more well-known advice to focus on your baby, and producing milk, while you pump.

“A lot of advice is to think of your baby, look at pics or videos of your baby,” she tells Scary Mommy. “That works for some mums, yes, but I have found that for many others it actually makes them very sad and can, for the same reasons as the sock’s necessity, actually inhibit letdown. So I tell mums that if those more ‘typical’ tips aren’t working for them, then don’t feel bad about playing Tetris on your phone for 20 minutes! And it seems quite handy that most sitcom episodes go for the exact duration of one perfect pumping session.”

She came up with the trick after realizing that her obsessiveness and anxiety about producing milk was probably not helping her cause.

“Personally, my chronic low supply with both of my children was incredibly difficult for me,” she tells us. “I pumped like crazy with my first, but the sadness and anxiety became so overwhelming that I simply had to find a way to try to trick my brain and to stop being so obsessive about my failure to produce. I’d been told to smell my baby’s hat, so I figured a sock was even cuter, so it would probably tick that ‘smell the baby’s hat’ box, and would also help to hide my lack of supply from my brain at that moment.”

Maybe the best part of finding this viral post is checking out the rest of Sargeant’s Facebook page and website, which is full of great advice for nursing moms, along with tons of fascinating information.

Even better? She also provides consultations over Skype if you don’t live in the vicinity of Zurich. We love her acceptance of different ways of feeding your baby, her acknowledgement that nursing is not always fun or easy, and her positive attitude and empathy.

“I chose to become an IBCLC in order to find ways to help women avoid what I had to go through,” she told us. “I began telling my mamas about the sock when they showed signs of very high stress and anxiety around their output — when they reminded me of myself. I started realizing that this sock tip was causing some of my mamas to produce 2-3 times more milk in one pumping session, and so it became the first (and the easiest!) pumping tip that I gave whenever mamas are trying to boost their supply.”

We almost can’t wait to get out those baby socks, cue up Netflix, and start pumping.

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Get Ready For More Jen And Judy: ‘Dead To Me’ Will Return For A 2nd Season

Jen + Judy = Forever

Fans of the Netflix hit Dead To Me should be doing all of the happy dances today because the uber popular series has officially been picked up for a second season.

Series creator (and 2 Broke Girls writer) Liz Feldman made the exciting announcement during a For Your Consideration Emmy panel this week and we will be patiently Googling a pending release date for the foreseeable future.

If you’ve not yet seen the series and are looking for a new binge-worthy show, please put Dead To Me at the top of your list (and watch Always Be My Maybe after that — Netflix is honestly killing it lately). This dark comedy had a heart-stopping 10-episode first season and left fans begging for more with their final scene.

The show stars two powerhouse women, Jen (Christina Applegate), a devoted mother and recent widow who is spiraling out of control from a combination of grief and guilt, and Judy (Linda Cardellini), her new BFF who is harboring her own secrets and a deep-seated grief that will punch you right in the gut. Steve (James Marsden) also makes his way into many of the episodes and you will eventually come to despise him despite his dreamy exterior.

Get Ready For More Jen And Judy: 'Dead To Me' Will Return For A 2nd Season

The show follows the women as they meet at a grief-support group run by Pastor Wayne (Keong Sim), a character you both want to punch in the throat and earnestly hug simultaneously, who attempts to help people come to terms with love and loss. Judy tells the group she’s there because she lost her husband, Steve, but viewers soon come to find out she’s dealing with a whole lot more.

Throw in a hit-and-run, some major deception, infertility, broken marriages, teenage angst, an over-the-top mother-in-law, and complex friendships born out of a house of cards, and you have the makings of a series that leaves fans unable to get enough. Side note: You can binge the entire first season on a Saturday, no problem.

Get Ready For More Jen And Judy: 'Dead To Me' Will Return For A 2nd Season

The supporting characters are just as easy to relate to and I think that’s why the show resonates with so many people — it’s equal parts humor, tragedy, bad decision making, love, loss, and forgiveness — emotions every single one of us can relate to.

Feldman teased fans about a possible season 2 earlier this year. “It will be about the further exploration of this friendship, and relationship, and now very complicated dynamic, or even more complicated dynamic between these two women,” she told Entertainment Weekly. “What I wanted to do was create a situation where they’re forced together, and they need each other now in some ways more than they did at the beginning of season 1.”

Get Ready For More Jen And Judy: 'Dead To Me' Will Return For A 2nd Season

If you’ve ever experienced grief or the loss of a loved one, it can be hard to conceive of humor mixed with immeasurable sadness, but the show seems to portray them perfectly, both on their own merit and together.

Applegate and Cardellini will return in their respective roles for the 10-episode Season 2, set to hit Netflix sometime next year.

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Target’s Selling Wine Cooler Fanny Packs Now Because YOLO

Target has super cute wine cooler fanny packs so this can be your most extra summer yet

All over the country, school’s out for summer. Moms everywhere are rejoicing the end of checking folders, scrawling their names on permission slips, and finding rotten bananas at the bottoms of backpacks — until a few months from now, that is. That means it’s time to celebrate — and what better way to do it than pulling a cold wine from your physical person and toasting to another school year done and over?

Target has you ready for both the toast and that first whiny “I’m borrrrred” of summer with these adorable and extremely handy wine cooler fanny packs.

It comes in this pretty mermaid-y pattern.

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Or this super cute grapefruit motif.

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Look at that very functional insulation to keep your rosé all day.

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To be fair, Target doesn’t actually claim that wine chilling is the given purpose of this item, but WTF else will we keep in there? Cut up grapes? Oh hell no. Fermented ones only please.

Target's Selling Wine Cooler Fanny Packs Now Because YOLO

They did try though. “This insulated fanny pack provides hands-free convenience when on the go — you can stash a sandwich and clementines for an outdoor lunch, or a small can of lemonade, some slices of jerky and a baggy of sliced fruit for a quick snack.” LOL. Sounds good, Target.

Target's Selling Wine Cooler Fanny Packs Now Because YOLO

Sorry, but I did the actual math, y’all. A 750 ml bottle of wine is just under 13 inches tall — and this insulated fanny pack is the perfect size to hold all that junk in your front trunk.

Target's Selling Wine Cooler Fanny Packs Now Because YOLO

Now, I’m not remotely suggesting that any mom should drink to handle the stresses of parenting. But isn’t time spent by the pool a little bit nicer with some ice-cold white wine that you can whip out on a moment’s notice? I’m just sayin’. It’s not the worst idea to bring a little chill to a stressful summer day of momming, or to bust out that bottle to surprise your mom friends at the neighborhood splash pad. We deserve this.

Of course, you are by no means limited to standard-size wine bottles. Get creative here. You can stick in pouches of wine or even a home-made concoction of some kind in your child’s soccer water bottle. We’re not here to judge, only to make suggestions.

Target's Selling Wine Cooler Fanny Packs Now Because YOLO

Make this summer your best and most functional ever — and the best part? Other than the wine-at-the-ready? Each fanny pack is only $6, so you can buy for all of your stressed out mom friends too. Happy chilling!

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Exhausted Parents Everywhere Are Loving This Viral ‘Empty Nest’ Shoot

You could say that these new empty nesters are not exactly heartbroken to start this new chapter in their lives

We are all too used to the common photo shoots: engagement, pregnancy, wedding, new baby. But what about all the other new chapters in life that go without a trip to the photographer and subsequent excited social media post? Enter Amy and Randy English, who were more than ready to celebrate their new phase: having their lives and their house back after their youngest kid flies the coop.

Luckily for them, their daughter, Haley Marie Jones, wasn’t just moving out of the house, she was also in the beginning stages of running a new photography business, in addition to being a full-time nanny. The resulting empty nester photoshoot was so hilarious that it went viral fast, clocking in 85,000 comments and 215,000 shares on Facebook in the last week.

“Most parents are a little sad when they hit the ’empty nest’ phase of life,” Jones wrote in the caption. “HOWEVER, my parents seem thrilled. Also, how cute are they??!!”

The empty nest photo shoot starts out pretty sweet — just a couple entering their golden years at home.

Haley Marie Photography

But then things get funny pretty fast, with the “Expecting 0 kids” sign. We love the detail of the giant ZERO balloon.

Haley Marie Photography

Ouch. Then it gets just a little bit mean, but in a pretty hilarious way. “Our favorite kids,” the next sign reads, as the couple poses with their two dogs, who aren’t going anywhere.

Haley Marie Photography

Are they a little bit sad? They are not at all sad. They are thrilled.

Haley Marie Photography

Before you start feeling bad for their kids (they have three), we’d like to reiterate that their youngest daughter, who moved out this weekend, was in on the joke and took the pictures herself.

The 22-year-old, who’s a nanny, is moving from the family home in Pontotoc, Mississippi, to Oxford, where she’ll focus on her job as well as her small photography business — which, since these photos spread, is suddenly booming.

“We decided to do this photoshoot when I signed my lease in March,” Jones tells Scary Mommy. “I wanted to take a picture of my mom and dad outside of my apartment buildings’ offices and she suggested we wait and do an empty nester photo shoot. We had never seen one so we just threw it together! The funny signs were ALL my mom’s idea and I think that’s what really made the pictures so funny!”

Since the photos have gone viral, everyone is somehow even happier than they were before.

“We are very thankful for all of the attention this has gotten,” Jones tells us. “It’s doing great things for my business! I did not expect these photos to get so much attention. Maybe 20 likes at most. I am just now starting out professionally, and when I woke up [the next] morning I had thousands and thousands of shares, comments, and new page likes, which means the world to me! My business is getting out there which means I will be doing more of what I love! It’s truly surreal and I am very grateful.”

It sounds like Jones was far from a pain to her parents — they get along great. But everyone is looking forward to what’s next, and no one could have done it alone.

“I do photography on the side, I have always had a passion for it and my parents pushed me to start my own business and I am forever grateful for that,” Jones said.

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Weatherman Loses It When Viewers Complain Tornado Warnings Are Interrupting ‘The Bachelorette’

How can we channel the energy of the weatherman who wants to save the lives of people who just want to watch ‘The Bachelorette’?

Last night, as severe storms and tornados ripped through Dayton, Ohio, Fox 45 meteorologist Jamie Simpson was doing his job in front of the green screen, alerting viewers to the dangerous areas and the path of the storm. But when he started getting feedback on social media urging the station to go back to screening The Bachelorette, Simpson totally lost it.

And as much as we eagerly watch The Bachelorette, we’re 100 percent here for Jamie on this one, who may well have saved some lives with his miniature outburst of emotion over people caring more about reality TV than insanely dangerous weather.

 

Simpson is all business at first, rolling through exactly where the severe weather and tornado warnings are located and how long they’re going to last. But then he pauses — and gives everyone the tough love they deserve.

“I’m checking social media,” he says. “We have viewers complaining already, ‘Just go back to the show.’ No, we’re not going back to the show! This is a dangerous situation, OK? Think if this was your neighborhood. I’m sick and tired of people complaining about this. Our job is to keep people safe and that is what we’re going to do.

He stops for a moment, but he’s not done with his well-deserved lecture yet.

“Some people complain this is all about my ego: Stop,” he says. “Okay, just stop right now. I’m done with you people. This is pathetic. This is a dangerous situation here.”

He ends with a pitch perfect sorry-not-sorry line that we are living for right now:

“All right. I’m sorry I did that. It just really bothers me there are people who don’t care about other people’s safety around here.”

The storm ended up killing one person and injuring dozens more, while causing millions in damage to structures across Dayton. At least one large tornado tore through Dayton, causing mass destruction, while other tornadoes were reported throughout the region.

Basically everyone on earth took Simpson’s side in the aftermath of the storm (and his little outburst). The news station’s social media filled with thank-yous to the very passionate weatherman.

Even the Bachelorette herself chided her viewers for caring more about the show than their own lives, writing, “Thanks Dayton, Ohio, for the love, but be safe. Naders are no joke.”

At least one viewer took to Twitter to say that not even her mom could convince her that the storm was serious, but when she saw Simpson lose his cool on television, she knew she should get safe.

And other meteorologists from around the country took Simpson’s side, too.

Sure, we know that the rose ceremony is hard to miss, but you’ll be missing a lot of rose ceremonies if you get murdered by a tornado while you’re trying to watch network television in your living room during a weather emergency. Listen to Jamie: sometimes — just sometimes — the weatherman is more important than your guilt-watches.

As for Jamie Simpson, he had a message to all of the media outlets that want to talk to him about his mini-lecture on the importance of life over television: let me do my job. After all, there is more possible severe weather to come.

Jamie, we continue to salute you.

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It’s Bullsh*t That Women Can’t Request Female Drivers On Lyft And Uber

This Lyft story is horrifying and further proof that ride share companies are not keeping their customers safe

Lyft needs to get its sh*t together, immediately. Anna Gillcrist, an actress and writer, took to Twitter to share a terrifying story about her experience with a creepy driver and the completely awful, dismissive way that it was handled by a customer service agent. This is all further proof that women should be allowed to request female drivers on Lyft and Uber, in order to avoid danger situations and sexual harassment.

Gillcrist took a shared Lyft home after a friend’s bachelorette party and everything was fine until the two people in the car left, leaving her alone with the driver.

“Once they were dropped off, the driver immediately leaned over to me and asks ‘do you have a boyfriend?’ I paused, and didn’t respond,” Gillcrist tweeted. “He asks again, “come on do you have a boyfriend?” I said yes. He continued to ask me questions about what he did, and what I did. Then he asks, ‘is your boyfriend in town?’ I didn’t respond. He asks again. I don’t respond.”

The driver pulled up to her street and started to drive very slowly. He then asked Gillcrist if her boyfriend was home. “I immediately realized the doors were locked and I said ‘please unlock the doors,'” He didn’t,” she wrote. “So I pried the lock up, jumped out of the car, and ran to my apartment.”

So, how did Lyft handle their driver’s horrifically scary and dangerous behavior? Terribly. Just terribly.

Gillcrist called the company and the customer service representative told her that the driver would never be able to pick her up again. She then explained that that was not good enough and this creepy, deeply inappropriate driver should not be able to pick up anyone.

“He just said ‘don’t worry he will be reprimanded,’” Gillcrist wrote. “Then he gave me a $5 credit, and told me he would be emailing me the official report. I have received no email. I’ve been sitting on my bed thinking about this for hours and I am fucking angry.”

Gillcrist explained she will not let the issue go until it’s properly addressed. After all, this guy is still driving around in his car, picking up women, and potentially putting them in this same terrifying situation.

“I want more than a stupid $5 credit,” she tweeted. “Your driver put me in a scenario in which I thought I might be kidnapped, raped, or even killed. That pathetic attempt to mask a serious issue is insulting to me and women everywhere who have to deal with this shit on a regular basis.”

Gillcrist’s thread pulled in almost 34,000 likes and more than 15,000 retweets and all of a sudden *surprise surprise* Lyft took notice.

“Anna, we are so sorry you experienced this,” the company tweeted. “Behavior like you reported is not allowed on the Lyft platform, and we find reports like this very concerning. We immediately took action as soon as we received your tweet and a member of our safety team will be in touch soon.”

People on Twitter were less than impressed by Lyft’s delayed action. They also slammed the company for not taking women’s safety seriously.

It’s incredibly disappointing and scary that Lyft would allow a driver who sexual harassed a rider to continue to use their app. Hopefully this public outcry is a wakeup call for them. And, seriously, GIVE US AN OPTION FOR FEMALE DRIVERS.

 

 

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This Man In His 30’s Doesn’t Think He’s A Creep For Flirting With 19-Year-Olds

A man in his 30’s was confused when a group of younger women were creeped out by him

I know none of us need yet another story about a creepy guy who doesn’t understand boundaries but, alas, here we are. A 30-year-old man took to Reedit to complain that he was firmly shot down by a group of younger women he tried to flirt with. He was confused why these 18 and 19-year-old women didn’t want his presence at their birthday party and my eyes have officially rolled alllll the way to the back of my head.

So, here’s how it all went down. A guy with the username Throweotro posted his story on Reddit, asking for feedback as to why the women thought his behavior inappropriate. His post has since been deleted but was posted to Twitter via @redditships.

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Basically, he saw a group of women at a bar/restaurant celebrating their friend’s 19th birthday. He found them attractive and told his friend they should go over. “My buddy told me to leave them alone and that they looked like ‘babies,'” the Reedit user recalled. “He didn’t want to go over at first, but since the breakup, every other woman but my ex has been invisible. He went to wingman with me.”

Side note: if your friend says a group of women are too young and tells you to leave them alone YOU LISTEN TO THAT FRIEND. Ugh.

The two guys go over and he thought it was going well. Then, one of the women told him to “take a fucking hint R. Kelly.” She said that he was making them uncomfortable. Another woman asked the guys to go away. That wasn’t enough to get this man to leave, though. He wrote that he “stood his ground,” because he was irked by the R.Kelly comment.

He also didn’t get it when one of the women explained that he was too old to be hitting on them. But, um, that response fully checks out. 30-year-old men should not be invading the space of 19-year-old women and trying to flirt with them (attn: Moby).

“I said that adults are allowed to hit on adults. It’s not a crime,” the man wrote. “One woman just asked me why I was still standing there and yelled at me to go away.”

The guy’s friend later told him that he should have noticed that the women were uncomfortable and called him delusional. AGAIN, listen to your friend.

Later, a Twitter user posted a Reddit response from one of the women who the guy had been bothering. Her account of the events were, unsurprisingly, very different from his innocent retelling.

“Each time he said something, we nodded and then turned our backs to him. We said ‘thank you, bye’ a few times,” she recalled. “But he was still standing there, talking to us. His friend kept finding excuses to leave. I was annoyed, uncomfortable, and disgusted.”

People on Twitter had many thoughts and feelings about this guy and his whole situation.  Basically, everyone was rolling their eyes and informing him that he was, indeed, being creepy.

https://twitter.com/jetpack/status/1132360210851487745

As if it needs to be said again, men need to pick up on cues, not insert themselves into a woman’s space, and perhaps come to terms with the fact that it’s inappropriate to chat up 18 and 19-year-olds when you are THIRTY.

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