16 Reasons RBG Was The F*cking GOAT

Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg has carved out a permanent place in all of our hearts, for so many reasons, not least of which was her lifelong championing of women’s rights. She was a living, breathing testament to the power of grit, tenacity, and compassion. Here are just a few reasons she truly was the ultimate GOAT, the greatest of all time.

1. She was the first person, male or female, to serve as editor at both the Harvard and Columbia law reviews.

It was rare enough in the 1950s that a woman even be granted entry into either of these prestigious universities. Yale and Princeton still did not admit women at the time. So, that Ruth Bader Ginsburg served on each of these famous student-run journals of legal scholarship is a testament to her brilliance, determination, and general badassery.

2. When people told her she couldn’t do something because she was a woman, she went ahead and did it anyway.

Ginsburg didn’t take no for an answer. She not only fought for herself, but she cleared a path for other women too. While she was at Harvard, the dean asked Ginsburg to justify her presence at the school since she’d taken a man’s place. Later, when one of her professors recommended her to serve as a clerk for supreme court justice Felix Frankfurter, Frankfurter said he wasn’t “ready” to hire a woman.

At the time, each of these instances were perfectly legal. Not only did Ginsburg scrape and claw to push past every “no” for herself, but it is largely due to her work that the sexism she personally experienced is no longer legal. Regardless of anyone’s politics, women in the United States owe her a massive debt of gratitude.

3. RBG had a voracious, competitive appetite for academic excellence, and wasn’t afraid to own it.

She graduated first in her class from Columbia Law School. According to the ACLU, Ginsburg said she didn’t originally attend law school expecting to champion women’s rights. She said she went to law school for “personal, selfish reasons. I thought I could do a lawyer’s job better than any other.” Well, she wasn’t wrong.

4. Again and again, RBG came up against sexism in her career, and she stood up to it every time.

While at Cornell, one of her professors offered her the answers for an exam in exchange for sex. At the 2018 Sundance Film Festival, where the documentary RBG premiered, she relayed her reaction: “I went to his office and I said, ‘How dare you! How dare you do this!’ and that was the end of that.”
Ginsburg often had to fight for entry and then had to fight once again for equal pay. At Rutgers Law School, where she was only the second female law professor, Ginsburg and other female employees filed a complaint under the brand new Equal Pay Act of 1963, and they won.

5. RBG co-founded the very first women’s rights law journal, the Women’s Rights Law Reporter.

At Rutgers, Ginsburg had begun teaching seminars on women and the law. Her students’ interest in the subject furthered her own, and with Elizabeth Langer, she founded and became a faculty advisor to the first journal on women’s rights, which continues to be published today at Rutgers Law School.

6. RBG co-founded the Women’s Rights Project at the ACLU.

Ginsburg was a founding director of the Women’s Rights Project, created in 1972, an ongoing project that even to this day fights discrimination against women.

7. RBG became the first tenured female law professor at Columbia.

In 1972, the same year she was founding the Women’s Rights Project, Ginsburg became the first female tenured Columbia Law School professor.

8. RBG fought for all women, regardless of socioeconomic class.

While teaching at Columbia, Ginsburg learned that the school was laying off female maids but not male janitors. She complained, an injunction was filed against Columbia and supported by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, and eventually, as Ginsburg told NPR in 2018, “Columbia decided they didn’t really have to lay off anyone.”

9. RBG won five out of six cases that she argued before the Supreme Court, setting precedent after precedent for defending women’s rights.

Katherine Franke, Columbia Law School professor and Director of the Center for Gender and Sexuality Law, said of Ginsburg, “RBG’s signature approach to combating sexism was bringing lawsuits on behalf of men who were being treated unequally because of their sex. Her thinking was that male judges would appreciate the injustice in a case where men were the victims, and in winning those cases she was building the scaffolding for addressing the sexism women suffered.”

In Duren v. Missouri, Ginsburg argued that a male convict’s right to “a jury chosen from a fair cross-section of his community was violated because it didn’t include women, whose jury duty was voluntary.” By protecting men from sexism, Ginsburg was quietly laying the groundwork for precedence that would protect women from sexism too. She truly was a legal genius.

10. RBG was the first female Jewish Supreme Court justice.

In 1993, President Bill Clinton nominated Ginsburg to the Supreme Court. Ginsburg was only the second female justice ever to serve (Sandra Day O’Connor was the first), the first Jewish person to serve since 1969, and the first female Jewish Supreme Court justice in history.

11. RBG delivered a brilliant burn like nobody’s business.

“When I’m sometimes asked ‘When will there be enough [women on the Supreme Court]?’ and I say ‘When there are nine,’ people are shocked. But there’d been nine men, and nobody’s ever raised a question about that.” — The Notorious RBG

12. RBG’s dissents were absolutely epic.

In Supreme Court-speak, a dissent is an opinion that goes against the majority. Ginsburg became famous for her powerful dissents, which she would read aloud and which were written in normal everyday language rather than unintelligible legalese. “I like to think most of my dissents will be the law someday,” Ginsburg said in 2015 at a conversation at the University of Michigan.

13. RBG was the first justice to officiate a same-sex marriage.

In 2013, Ginsburg officiated the wedding of Kennedy Center President Michael M. Kaiser to economist John Roberts in Washington, DC, making her the first Supreme Court member to officiate a same-sex marriage.

14. RBG did pushups and planks clear into her 80s.

20 pushups every day, and 30-second planks, to be precise. It was part of her daily routine, she said at a 2016 event at the Temple Emanu-El Skirball Center in New York City

15. RBG made being a Supreme Court Justice cool.

She is popularly known as “Notorious RBG.” Need we say more?

16. Even on her deathbed, Ruth Bader Ginsburg worried about the future of the United States of America.

While on her deathbed, she reportedly told her granddaughter that her “most fervent wish is that I will not be replaced until a new president is installed.” She worried about our democracy as she was actively dying. The GOP can go ahead and stop claiming a monopoly on patriotism.

Ruth Bader Ginsburg, of diminutive physical stature but with the heart of a giant, moved mountains of granite and sparked hope where hope seemed pointless. It is our responsibility, our duty, to continue her work in her stead. We cannot — and will not — let her down.

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From The Confessional: Lots Of Moms Are Having Affairs Right Now

A LOT of moms are taking to the Confessional to share all the steamy details of their affairs

A global pandemic isn’t exactly the right time for an affair, necessarily, (though one could certainly argue if there is ever actually a “good” time for an affair), but that’s not stopping many, many moms from dishing the tea on their affair partners in our Confessional.

Whether it’s feelings of spousal neglect, or it’s an act of revenge, or just out of pure boredom…these moms are committing adultery and have a lot of complicated feelings about it.

Confessional #25794915

“I had an affair because it felt wonderful to be desired by someone again. I’d prefer to be desired by SO, but that wasn’t happening, and hadn’t happened for a very long time.”

Confessional #25793482

“DAMN lucky that my affair was never discovered, I know this. But it’s still Messy, 2 broken hearts bc it’s too dangerous for us to be together, some days it’s hard for me to even leave my bed. How do I move forward? How can I have a life when I love him?”

Confessional #25793196

“I have been having an online affair. Last night we saw each other. It was the most incredible night of my adult life. I dont even feel guilty.”

Whether it’s a pandemic-influenced choice or not, many people are having an affairs and keeping it strictly online.

Confessional #25793196

“I have been having an online affair. Last night we saw each other. It was the most incredible night of my adult life. I dont even feel guilty.”

Confessional #25775506

“The boredom of being home all the time has led me to rekindle an online affair. I thought that this quarantine would bring me closer with my spouse, but they are just using work-at-home as an excuse to always be in work mode. The affair is just easier.”

Confessional #24319701

“I broke off my online affair and I am sad but mainly feel relieved and lighter. The small thrill wasn't worth the immense risk”

Many women say having an online affair makes them feel less guilty, but it’s harder to brush off the feelings of how “real” it can get whether you’ve met your affair partner in real life or not.

According to the American Psychological Association, many studies suggest that even when there is no in-person contact, online affairs can be just as devastating as the real-world variety, triggering feelings of insecurity, anger and jealousy.

Confessional #10571411

“What I do at work: text with my online affair, nap in my (private) office, watch Netflix, drink in secret, scroll through SM... What I don’t do at work: actual work”

Confessional #3135617

“I'm having an online affair. I think I'm in love with him. But I won't leave my husband because of our kids. I feel like a failure, this wasn't supposed to happen.”

Confessional #1747648

“I'm having an online affair and it's dramatically improving my married sex life.”

Statistics on online affairs aren’t easy to come by, given their secretive nature in general. But a 2008 Australian study found that of 183 adults who were currently or recently in a relationship, more than 10 percent had formed intimate online relationships, 8 percent had experienced cybersex and 6 percent had met their affair partners in person.

More than half of the respondents believed an online relationship constituted unfaithfulness, with the numbers climbing to 71 percent for cybersex and 82 percent for in-person meetings.

Confessional #1714244

“I had an amazing online affair for 2 yrs before I found out I was being catfished. The guy turned out to be a girl. I was shocked and hurt but forgave quickly. It was hotter than ever. Friends with benefits”

Confessional #1708988

“DH hasn't touched me in months, so I'm having an online affair. I'm sad and depressed that things have come to this.”

Many of these affair confessionals surrounded women who felt emotionally and sexually neglected by their current spouses and partners.

Confessional #25790429

“A hot security guard and I send dirty pictures and videos to each other, which will soon spark into an affair. My husband and I no longer have a marriage, but not because of this”

Confessional #25788659

“I enjoyed my affair, the hottest sex I’ve ever had, I miss him like crazy. It was me who ended it. This is hell but it could’ve been a much worse end had we been discovered. AP is very upset, rightfully so, but I hope he knows how much I’m hurting too”

Confessional #1635843

“I've had an online affair with someone I don't know for 2 years. When we both decided to stop talking I actually cried because I've had better conversations with a stranger than my own husband. I'm lonely again...”

If you’ve got something to get off your chest, head on over to the Confessional and spill the tea.

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Ask Scary Mommy: How Do I Not Lose My Damn Mind This Fall & Winter?!

Ask Scary Mommy is Scary Mommy’s new advice column, where our team of “experts” answers all the questions you have about life, love, body image, friends, parenting, and anything else that’s confusing you.

Between quarantine-related cabin fever, seasonal depression, virtual learning, and work-from-home-mom guilt, lots of people are gearing up for a stressful fall/winter season. How can we get through it without losing our minds (or ourselves)?

Have your own questions? Email advice@scarymommy.com

Dear Scary Mommy,

I suffer from pretty substantial seasonal depression when there’s not a pandemic that keeps us all inside our own homes way more than cold temperatures already do. I also have a generalized anxiety disorder, which causes me to spiral into “future thinking” and I genuinely cannot help it. I’m already bummed that so many activities that keep my head above water (fall festivals, holiday gatherings) are just not happening this year. On top of that, I’m working from home full-time, trying to share the extremely stressful talk of virtual learning duties with my partner, and feeling All The Guilt because I cannot focus on a million things at once that are constantly demanding my attention. I don’t know how I’m going to cope this year. I see a therapist once a month currently. I don’t think it’s enough, but my time is so limited as it is. HELP.

Listen to me, and listen good: You are not alone. Seasonal depression — also referred to as Seasonal Affective Disorder — is real, it can be heavy, and knowing it can last for almost half of the year for some people is extremely frustrating.  SAD is also diagnosed four times more often in women than men, which really says something about the mental load of mothers in our society.

The typical activities that help you get through these coming months likely aren’t going to be an option this year, you’re right. If planning something to look forward to is one way you usually cope — which is a proactive, really great way to do that — then try and plan something else. Maybe instead of gathering with the entire extended family indoors for Thanksgiving, why don’t you and your immediate quarantine pod take a few days away to an Air BnB (if it’s financially possible) to enjoy some cozy time or outdoor hikes in new surroundings? Or you could plan cost-effective weekend day trips and find a new park to explore. Bring a picnic lunch, lots of warm blankets, and enjoy. Leave the laptops, Google Hangouts, and the four walls of your house behind for a few hours and do something fun and different together.

I’m glad to hear you see a therapist. And boy, can I empathize with the lack of time in a day and dedicating any of it to self-care. But you know the shorter days, longer nights, and colder weather already affects you. You deserve more than anything to carve out an hour a week and dial into TeleHealth to talk about ways you’re trying to cope, what works, and what doesn’t. Your therapist can also help you brainstorm about this, and help give you the tools you need to work through your depression and anxiety.

Facebook isn’t always a great place for dialoguing — particularly now — but at times, I’ve found parent groups to be enormously helpful (both local and non), as a sounding board and as a place to get ideas from other parents who are also feeling the struggle. Finding a (virtual, germ-free) community is more important than ever now, when so many of us are feeling isolated.

I hope this helps. You’re not alone, you’re extremely self-aware and being proactive, and most of all, you’re doing a wonderful job.

Have your own questions? Email advice@scarymommy.com

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‘Izzy’s Koala World’ On Netflix Is Your Kids’ New Favorite Show

Because how could anyone possibly resist a show about an 11-year-old helping koalas?

In search of a show the kids (and the entire family, really) are guaranteed to love? Fire up Netflix and press play on Izzy’s Koala World. Really, do it. Now. You won’t regret it.

Premiered this past week on Sept. 15, Izzy’s Koala World follows Izzy Bee, an 11-year-old “koala whisperer” who cares for koalas in her family’s animal sanctuary in Australia.

And if that brief description of Netflix’s newest family-friendly series didn’t already sell you, then maybe this part of the synopsis will:

“Helping koalas in need is 11-year-old Izzy Bee’s passion in life,” the show’s description starts. “Izzy and her mom, who happens to be the only veterinarian on their home of Magnetic Island, have made it their mission to rescue and rehabilitate any koala who needs help. They take them home, welcome them into the family, and nurture them until they’re ready to be released back into the wild where they belong.”

Throughout the show, viewers follow Izzy as she rescues and forms friendships with koalas, “all the while showcasing a generosity of spirit and a deep intuitiveness that is striking, extraordinary, and magical to watch.”

“They all seem to gravitate toward her,” Izzy’s mom, Ali, tells the Associated Press. “They’re wild animals. They’re terrified. They need that calming, gentle, quiet, loving presence.”

Magnetic Island, located off the east coast of Australia, is home to hundreds of koalas; and when these koalas are in need of help, Izzy and her family nurture the cuddly animals at their sanctuary until they’re ready to be released back into the wild. That includes checking in on them every day, feeding them, playing with them, and, in the case of Izzy, working on homework while a koala sits atop her head and hugging them while she brushes her teeth.

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“It’s hard to explain,” Izzy tells AP. “When I’m with them, it’s just sort of like really calming. They sort of like understand me in a way.”

Izzy’s Koala World is one of seven new Netflix Original Preschool titles that are not only produced by creators from all over the world, but are also designed for diverse audiences.

“With high-quality, age-appropriate programming for kids at every age and stage, we want to help young people find and connect with the stories and characters they love on Netflix,” said Melissa Cobb, vice president of original animation at Netflix, in a July 2019 press release. “We are also here to empower parents to find the shows that are just right for their families during whatever time they feel is appropriate to enjoy entertainment.”

The other six new Netflix Original Preschool titles include DreamWorks Dragons Rescue Riders, Hello Ninja, StarBeam, DreamWorks Go, Dog. Go!, What-To-Doodles, and Emily’s Wonder Lab, which has received much praise from parents and kids alike.

“I’m just…so incredibly proud that my daughter will be able to watch this someday,” wrote host Emily Calandrelli, who was nine months pregnant while filming the Netflix show. “When I was studying to become an engineer, I was one of 2 or 3 women in classrooms of 50 men. I’m hoping shows like this help change that demographic for her generation.”

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You Can Crochet Yourself All 4 ‘Golden Girls’ With Help From A New Book

The book comes with all the materials to make Sophia

As we enter the 800th month of this coronavirus pandemic, people are still looking for new ways to entertain themselves. If you’ve never crocheted before, now may be a good time to learn because there’s a book that will help you create an entire Golden Girls crew of your very own.

Crochet The Golden Girls is a new book from Allison Hoffman, and it promises to deliver the four sassy ladies we’ve all come to know and love — Rose Nylund, Blanche Devereaux, Dorothy Zbornak, and Sophia Petrillo — for under $23. Time to grab a crochet hook, some cheesecake, and a favorite beverage of choice because this sounds like the perfect little Sunday to me.

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The book gives readers a step-by-step guide to creating our very own tiny, soft ladies of Miami; and, as a bonus, the kit includes all the materials you need to make Sophia. Of course, she wouldn’t be complete without her signature eyeglasses and wicker purse, and those are included as well.

The book also gives us patterns to create the rest of the crew, along with classic accessories like their couch, a palm leaf brooch, and two versions of cheesecake, because you can never, ever have enough cheesecake.

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“Grab a crochet hook and head out to the lanai because it’s time to stitch up your favorite sassy senior ladies!” the book description reads on Amazon. “This officially licensed kit includes all the materials and instructions needed to make your own adorable Sophia doll complete with her signature purse, plus patterns to create Rose, Blanche, and Dorothy as well as fun accessories and props from the classic show that continues to have a cult following.”

Sophia 'Golden Girls' crochet
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If crocheting isn’t your idea of a relaxing time, there’s a ton of Golden Girls merch available to brighten up any space. In fact, not only are there Golden Girls Chia Pets to adorn your home, you can get everything from Golden Girls PEZ dispensers, granny panties (because who doesn’t want one of those faces covering their lady bits?), and even an entire Golden Girls-themed cruise you can go on with all of your friends complete with a “One Night in St. Olaf Dance Party.” Finally, if you’re all-in on the show, you can adorn your walls with Golden Girls wallpaper, which will most definitely set your house apart from the neighbors.

“Give a set to your best friend,” author Allison Hoffman wrote. “Make a Sophia coin purse for your mom. Feeling nostalgic? Crochet a little Fernando the Teddy Bear (one ear only) for the Rose in your life. What are you waiting for? Head out to the lanai with your crochet kit, whip up these amigurumi Golden Girls, then celebrate with cheesecake!”

Sounds like a plan to us.

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Maya Rudolph Wins Her First Two Emmys In Same Week

Maya Rudolph became a two-time Emmy winner this week, taking home two gold statues for her work on ‘SNL’ and ‘Big Mouth’

It is hard to believe that Maya Rudolph, bonafide movie star, comedian, and one of our favorite female performers on Saturday Night Live, has never won an Emmy… until now, that is. This week, Rudolph not only became an Emmy winner; she became a two-time Emmy winner, one for her SNL channeling of Kamala Harris and the other for voicing the role of Connie the Hormone Monstress in Big Mouth.

As part of the week-long Creative Arts Emmys virtual ceremony, Rudolph was honored with two trophies, the second on Saturday night. She beat out Bette Midler, Wanda Sykes, Angela Bassett, Phoebe Waller-Bridge, and herself, as she was also nominated in the same category for her role as a judge inspired by the late Ruth Bader Ginsburg in The Good Place.

“I was actually thinking about The Good Place a lot and about how we modeled her robe after Ruth Bader Ginsburg and how much of that was an homage to an iconic human being,” she explained in the virtual backstage press room about Ginsburg, who died on Friday at the age of 87. “When you think of a judge, when you think of all-knowing, when you think of powerful, when you think of all good, yeah, we modeled her robe after RBG, so that was pretty cool.”

Unlike some other Emmy winners, Rudolph opted against pre-recording an acceptance speech. “That feels a little presumptuous, and not to mention just physically, emotionally exhausting. If I’m going to experience defeat I’d rather not have gone through all the hair and makeup,” she said.

Rudolph added that she was super grateful for her win, especially considering the difficult times we’re going through.

“It’s certainly put a smile on my face this week to be so acknowledged,” she said, “but I felt that way about the nominations to be honest…I’m not really looking a gift horse in the mouth these days. I’m really grateful for any moment when we can stop and reflect and honor and celebrate each other.”

She concluded her speech by classily honored the other women in her category. “To be fair I didn’t think I was going to win again tonight,” she confessed. “I thought the guest actress, this nomination, is usually flooded with incredible women who are legends and I saw a couple of legends in there… Bette Midler beats me in the legend department, and Angela Bassett beats me in the legend dept. I’m kind of still surprised and a little bit startled I won another Emmy. I don’t know about you but I haven’t felt that lucky lately, so this a very foreign feeling and I’m really embracing it.”

Rudolph’s win wasn’t the only first of the Emmys. For the first time ever, a father-daughter duo — Ron and Jasmine Cephas Jones — both brought home awards. Ron nabbed an Emmy for his Guest Actor in a Drama Series for This Is Us, while his daughter won her first Emmy for her role in the Quibi series #FreeRayshawn. Jasmine is likely best known, however, for her portrayal of Peggy Schuyler and Maria Reynolds in Hamilton.

“As a parent, that’s the most fulfilling [thing] I could ever feel,” he said in the press room. “I mean, winning another Emmy is icing on the cake, but to see my daughter progress and move into this place where she’s earned an Emmy, it’s beyond words.”

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CDC Reverses Guidance On Testing Asymptomatic People For COVID-19, Again

Less than one month ago, the CDC stated that people without symptoms ‘don’t necessarily need a test,’ even if they had been exposed to the virus

About one month after the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) tweaked its testing guidance, stating that healthy people who have been exposed to COVID-19 didn’t “necessarily need a test” as long as they didn’t have symptoms, the agency has changed its guidance — again — regarding testing asymptomatic people for the novel coronavirus. The updated guidance, posted to the CDC’s website on Friday, now states that those who have been in close contact, “such as within 6 feet of a person with documented SARS-CoV-2 infection for at least 15 minutes and do not have symptoms,” will need a test.

“Please consult with your healthcare provider or public health official. Testing is recommended for all close contacts of persons with SARS-CoV-2 infection,” the CDC adds. “Because of the potential for asymptomatic and pre-symptomatic transmission, it is important that contacts of individuals with SARS-CoV-2 infection be quickly identified and tested. Pending test results, you should self-quarantine/isolate at home and stay separated from household members to the extent possible and use a separate bedroom and bathroom, if available.”

The CDC continues to say that, even if you have a negative test, you should still self-isolate for 14 days.

The updated guidance was posted under the CDC’s Summary of Changes on their website.

“Due to the significance of asymptomatic and pre-symptomatic transmission, this guidance further reinforces the need to test asymptomatic persons, including close contacts of a person with documented SARS-CoV-2 infection,” the CDC states.

The CDC faced swift backlash and criticism from public health experts — as well as local health departments and members of Congress — when it changed its guidance on Aug. 24. According to CNN, two sources told the publication that the August change was sent to the CDC by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services and was supposed to go through a several-day vetting process, but the unaltered document was, instead, posted on the CDC’s website in its original form, which included errors.

This time around, though, CDC Director Dr. Robert Redfield assured CNN on Thursday that “the guidelines, coordinated in conjunction with the White House Coronavirus Task Force, received appropriate attention, consultation and input from task force experts.”

Today’s reversal has been described as “good news” by the Infectious Diseases Society of American (IDSA).

“The return to a science-based approach to testing guidance from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention is good news for public health and for our united fight against this pandemic,” the community of physicians, scientists, and public health experts said in a statement, according to The Hill. “We urge officials to support the work of controlling this pandemic by following medical guidance of experts in the field.”

Dr. Anthony Fauci, director of the National Institutes of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, echoed the importance of testing asymptomatic people, telling MSNBC‘s Chris Hayes on Thursday night, “I can tell you right now that we should be testing more and we should be testing asymptomatic people. Take that to the bank and trust me on it.”

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This Austin No-Kill Shelter Is Building Tiny Homes For Their Rescue Pups

The goal is to help the dogs feel more at home while waiting for adoption

Animal shelters do amazing work but one no-kill organization called Austin Pets Alive! is going above and beyond to make sure their pups feel at home until they find their forever home by building them tiny houses — complete with heat and A/C.

The shelter is swapping out kennels for tiny homes which gives adoptable dogs and staff a workspace to train and build relationships with the dogs. “The idea,” they wrote on their Facebook page, “is to provide more of a home-like environment for the dogs, for decompression, training, and quality-of-life purposes.” The shelter builds programs like these for “key groups of animals that are typically euthanized in a shelter setting,” to help them survive.

“These cottages will double as comfortable and quiet housing for the most in-need dogs and workspaces for staff and volunteers,” they wrote. “The cottages will each have their own yard and be outfitted with dog-friendly seating and work spaces, as well as heat and a/c. The goal is that the dogs assigned to these cottages will move in permanently until we are able to find a foster or adoptive home for them — no more kennel life for these lucky pups!”

No-kill shelters are critical to protecting at-risk animals. According to the ASPCA, approximately 1.5 million shelter animals are euthanized (670,000 dogs and 860,000 cats) each year, which is down from 2.6 million in 2011 thanks to the efforts of shelters like this and the “adopt don’t shop” campaigns highlighting all the animals who need loving homes.

Austin Pets Alive! is doing their part to impact these numbers. According to their Facebook page, the nonprofit organization is dedicated to “helping to keep Austin no kill. Since 2008, APA! has saved over 80,000 dogs and cats from being killed at Central Texas shelters.”

The organization said they are still putting the finishing touches on the tiny homes but are hopeful the pups will be able to move into their new pads next month. “We are still in the process of completing these but we’re expecting our first pups will move in by October. We are very excited about this project!” they wrote.

Shelters rely on donations and volunteers to remain in business. Many offer their homes to foster animals while they wait to be adopted but for programs like the ones Austin Pets Alive! is doing for at-risk animals, money is what they need the most. If you have the ability to support the shelter financially, you can do so here.

These are some very lucky dogs, indeed.

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93 Percent Of Black Lives Matter Protests Have Been Peaceful, Report Says

The report also showed that government authorities were more likely to intervene in BLM protests than in other demonstrations

Despite what Trump and members of his admin may think or say, nearly all Black Lives Matter protests this summer have been peaceful, a new report shows.

According to a report published Thursday by the Armed Conflict Location and Event Data project (ACLED) — a nonprofit organization that tracks political violence and instability — in partnership with Princeton University’s Bridging Divides Initiative, 93 percent of BLM protests have been “overwhelmingly peaceful.” More than 2,400 locations reported peaceful protests, while less than 220 reported “violent demonstrations,” defined as including “acts targeting other individuals, property, businesses, other rioting groups or armed actors.”

“There have been some violent demonstrations, and those tend to get a lot of media coverage,” Dr. Roudabeh Kishi, ACLED’s director of research & innovation, told the Guardian. “But if you were to look at all the demonstrations happening, it’s overwhelmingly peaceful.”

For the joint project — called the US Crisis Monitor — ACLED and Princeton researchers not only analyzed more than 7,750 demonstrations associated with the Black Lives Matter movement in more than 2,440 different locations across the United States between May 26 and Aug. 22, but they also documented more than 1,000 protests related to COVID-19, a third of which were linked to the reopening of schools and considered peaceful protests.

Government authorities were, however, more likely to intervene in Black Lives Matter protests than in other demonstrations. According to the report, “more than 9 percent — or nearly one in 10 — have been met with government intervention, compared to 3 percent of all other demonstrations.”

“These data reveal that the United States is in crisis,” the report states. “It faces a multitude of concurrent, overlapping risks — from police abuse and racial injustice, to pandemic-related unrest and beyond — all exacerbated by increasing polarization.”

 

Government officials were also more likely to intervene with force “such as firing less-lethal weapons like tear gas, rubber bullets, and pepper spray or beating demonstrators with batons.” In fact, authorities used force in more than 54 percent of the demonstrations they engaged in — a significant increase compared to last year. According to the report, “over 5 percent of all events linked to the BLM movement have been met with force by authorities, compared to under 1 percent of all other demonstrations.”

Journalists were also on the receiving end of attacks from government forces. Since May, ACLED recorded more than 100 separate incidents of government violence against journalists in at least 31 states and D.C. during demonstrations associated with the BLM movement.

As Time pointed out, ACLED also highlighted a recent Morning Consult poll in which 42 percent of respondents believe that “most protesters (associated with the BLM movement) are trying to incite violence or destroy property.” Of course, ACLED’s report shows otherwise.

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From The Confessional: My Sex Dreams Are Wild AF

These unconscious fantasies are doing the MOST, y’all

There are so many reasons we love sleep. One of them is because we are, of course, parents and cannot ever seem to get enough of it. Other reasons include the major escape from reality we get within our unconscious minds — when we’re not all succumbing to 2020’s anxiety-filled nightmares, some of us are having some majorly interesting fantasies.

Welcome to the wild and wonderful world of sex dreams. May the Jason Momoas be ever in your favor.

Confessional #25795615

“I dream about Jason Momoa a LOT. Not even sex dreams - he's usually just hugging me, flirting with me, sometimes he picks me up and carries me around. I wish my husband acted like dream Jason Momoa.”

Confessional #25785662

“Had a sex dream about Dr. Nassif from the show Botched. wtf is wrong with me”

Confessional #25778155

“I had a graphic sex dream about Chris Cuomo. I think....I’ve been watching too much news.”

Celebrity sex dreams are the best, aren’t they? Except when they’re…the worst. Some of them will have you questioning your entire existence and psychological makeup. (These dreams should be entered as Exhibit A in the “I Need To Get Out More” mom defense.)

Confessional #25772741

“Had sex dreams about Dracula from that cheesy Netflix series and Baelish from GOT both in one night and it was incredibly hot. I'm going to hell.”

Confessional #25770709

“Apparently I want to have sex with John Mulaney according to my insane sex dream I had about him last night. I woke up b.c I had such a strong O.”

Confessional #25747892

“I had a steamy sex dream about the guys from The Wiggles. Tell me I'm not the only one!”

And then there’s the sex dreams we have about people we know in real life, and that can make things…weird. Just super uncomfortable, skin-crawly weird.

Confessional #25760608

“I had an intense sex dream about a coworker and now I can't look at him. I don't even find him attractive at all. I'm just horny. Long distance relationships suck.”

Confessional #25457777

“I had a sex dream starring one of the managers at work. The downfall, he’s married and now when I see him I think about how hot that dream was.”

Confessional #24199316

“My ex from 20 years ago moved to my very small town and I'm his 8 yr old kid's teacher. I've had sex dreams about him - that's all we did really and he's still hot. I love my DH, but the path not taken is in my face every day. His kid tells me a lot.”

And sometimes, our subconscious is trying to tell us (not so subtly) that we’re dissatisfied with our own lives — especially our sex lives — and we need to tap into our desires ASAP.

Confessional #23695593

“Haven't had any interest in sex for awhile. Attributed it to stress, being tired, depressed, hormones. etc. Had 2 very vivid, hot sex dreams last night, one with a man & another with a woman. Turns out I still do crave sex, just not with DH.”

Confessional #22532820

“H and I have had a rough patch. Randomly had an explicit sex dream about a neighbor. He's a devout Christian and I'm Athiest. I feel embarrassed but curious when I see him now. Wtf?”

Confessional #22496384

“I hate when I have sex dreams about my H; it gives me false hope and makes me feel weird the whole next day. Sexless marriage here, folks.”

Confessional #21233321

“I’m insecure about my body after kids but my husband wants me more then ever I just found out last night he still has sex dreams about ME not younger prettier, thinner women ME! Talk about guilt for all those Hugh jackman dreams....”

Honestly who among us has not harbored some sort of illicit fantasy about Hugh Jackman? He’s Wolverine and he can sing and dance for God’s sake!

The actual purpose of dreams, according to various psychological theories, is to allow the “disguised fulfillment of a repressed wish, often sexual in nature, which must not be gratified directly.” Freudian dream analyses might not always be accurate (subjectively speaking), but they are interesting enough to give some deep thought to.

Confessional #19410054

“I'm so unhappy and dissatiafied in my marriage that I keep having dreams about other men, just random dudes from high school sometimes. Not even sex dreams, just "happy relationship" dreams.”

Confessional #15812936

“I keep having these really hot sex dreams about my BIL (H's brother). Now I can't stop wondering what he's like in bed. The problem is I'm good friends with his wife and now I can barely look her in the eye. I hope the dreams never stop.”

Confessional #19654280

“My tattoo artist is so damn sexy, but married with a kid. I would never pursue it, but I keep having sex dreams about him. He said something suggestive at our last session and now I can't stop thinking about it. Married mom of 3 here.”

Confessional #10603981

“Had a really hot sex dream with Pink in it last night. Maybe it means I find her attractive. Maybe it just means I think she’s fucking awesome (which I do). Either way certain it means I’m not 100% straight. More like a 2 on the Kinsey scale.”

And yes, Pink can absolutely get it in the same way Hugh Jackman can. Our brains are truly something, are they not?

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