Feeling pHunky? Here Are Some Common Vaginal Issues Explained By An OB/GYN

Well, fellow vagina owners, if there’s one thing we know for sure, it’s that health issues don’t take a break—no matter what’s going on in the world. Stress doesn’t help either. Or being in our 40s. (Which means overwhelmed folks in their 40s probably feel fan-fuckingtastic right now. Not that I’m speaking from experience or anything…)

The truth is, our bodies are magical and amazing, but even the healthiest among us isn’t immune to the occasional “issue”… down there. In the nether region. Okay, let’s just be blunt. It’s time to talk vaginal health.

If you’ve been walking around with a vagina for the past several decades, you’ve undoubtedly faced at least one or two of the problems listed here—discomfort, odor, infection, or maybe just pushing another human through there is what really did your vag in. But there are things we can do to ensure our vaginas are healthy, because guess what? We only get one! So we need to take care of it.

Scary Mommy wanted to consult an expert about issues we face in the area of vaginal health, and go beyond yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, and STIs. We know to protect ourselves. We know to see a doctor and seek treatment for odor or discharge or itching or burning. But there are a slew of other issues, aren’t there? So we went a little “deeper.” What about other stuff like painful sex? And WTF is happening with our hormones? We got all sorts of answers and tips from Dr. Maria Sophocles, MD, gynecologist, founder and medical director of Women’s Healthcare of Princeton.

Sexual Discomfort

People, sex shouldn’t hurt. If it does, you need to investigate why. Dr. Sophocles says one issue could be vaginismus, the involuntary contracting of vaginal muscles, which is usually related to anxiety. Because that’s the thing — sex is mental as much as physical. If you’re anxious, your body (all of it) could be tense, making sex less than enjoyable. Another reason sex can hurt is due to vaginal dryness. Dr. Sophocles says the lack of natural lubricant is also often a result of anxiety, but can also be just an annoying effect of getting older. Yay.

“Sex and semen are not harmful or damaging,” Dr. Sophocles says, “but if it’s painful, consider whether it’s the position that’s painful, or ask yourself if you were really given enough time to relax and become lubricated.” She also recommends changing your “sexual scripting” meaning allowing more time for foreplay, changing positions, or even changing partners! (Hey, whatever works, right?)

She also says there is no shame in using lubricant. “There’s a bit of a myth that lubricants are just for older women and that’s not true,” she tells Scary Mommy. “They’re helpful for anyone.”

Finally, if you’re over 55, sexual discomfort may be due to atrophy from a loss of estrogen. Dr. Sophocles assures us that any gynecologist can treat and correct that, so don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor if you’re in that boat. After all, 55-year-olds deserve to have enjoyable sex as much as 25-year-olds, right?

Safe Use of Feminine Hygiene Products

What if there’s a funk? Can we douche? Should we douche? How about any of the millions of other fancy products out there that are supposed to make us smell like a gentle rain in a meadow? Dr. Sophocles says no. “The American College of OBGYN and pretty much every other nationally respected OBGYN group recommends against douching. It disturbs the natural bacteria that are supposed to be living in the vagina and it affects the pH, not necessarily in a good way.”

However, she does go on to say, “That doesn’t mean that all feminine hygiene products are bad. There are gels and suppositories that actually help maintain a nice pH balance. RepHresh is one of them.” So yes, we can use products that help maintain the pH balance our bodies are naturally supposed to maintain. No, we shouldn’t try to make our hoo-has smell like gardenias.

Dr. Sophocles also says vaginal moisturizers are okay, which are different from vaginal lubricants. “A lubricant is something you use at the time of intercourse as sort of a band-aid to help sex be more comfortable,” she explains. “A vaginal moisturizer is something used a few times a week as a way to maintain moisture in the vagina. Many people as they age find that dryness in the vagina makes just sitting and walking uncomfortable, and for those, we recommend the use of a vaginal moisturizer such as Replens or Hyalo Gyn.”

But seriously, Dr. Sophocles says vaginal deodorants are a no-go, and that if your vaginal odor is strong to the point where it’s socially embarrassing, you need to see your doctor. Strong odor could just mean you have bacterial vaginosis, which is very common and is merely a shift in pH that causes embarrassing odor. It does, however, require medical treatment—not odor-masking products.

If, however, the odor is mild, Dr. Sophocles says to basically “do very little about it” because over washing and scrubbing will only irritate the delicate skin of the vulva and vagina. She says to “use mild soap and just let the soap from your body wash over the vulva. Wash gently between the inner and outer lips, rinse with water, pat dry.”

Hormonal Shifts Related to Menopause

Is anyone else just entering their 40s and wondering what TF is going on with their bodies? Thankfully, Dr. Sophocles says it’s not just me.

“The beginning and end of the reproductive cycle are a rocky road,” she explains. “When teens first start having periods, often the periods are irregular or problematic, and when women are in their 40s and enter what we call peri-menopause, this is also a time marked by hormonal fluctuations. This can lead to mood changes, changes in vaginal pH, changes in periods regularity, changes in cycle frequency or length, women can get heavy or irregular periods.”

Oh, so basically we get to have all the fun of the teenage years AND we have to pay bills and worry about our retirement now. Awesome.

“Peri-menopause is a frustrating and inconsistent decade or so,” she adds. Like as in ten years?! WTF? But Dr. Sophocles says there’s an eventual end to this exhausting roller coaster. “Once you’re done with menopause and the ovaries have shut down and you don’t have periods anymore, things tend to stabilize.”

So my 40s are gonna ROCK, is what I think she’s saying.

In all seriousness though, Dr. Sophocles does emphasize the value of taking care of our mental and physical health during this tumultuous time. “If you’re having mood changes and are a little grumpy and teary and can deal with it, fine, but if it’s impacting your family life, and your professional life, I think it’s really important to seek professional help. If your gynecologist can help you and offer solutions, that great. If not, don’t be afraid to talk to a mental health specialist,” she says.

And, don’t ignore major health signals either. “As far as periods go, if they get a little bit heavier but you’re not dizzy or weak, that’s fine. But if you’re bleeding between periods, or you’re bleeding so much that you’re bleeding more than five days in any cycle, that’s probably worth mentioning to the gynecologist, just to make sure it’s not some other problem like a fibroid or polyp or something,” she adds.

In the end, ownership of a vagina requires patience and accepting of things we cannot change (like fucking menopause and the fact that we ride the reproductive wave for what seems like 900 years), self-care (like gentle, mild cleansing of our physical selves and taking care of our mental health), and doing what we need to do to make our sex lives enjoyable. It’s a lot of work, but it’s worth it. Because in the end, being healthy is a gift and a huge responsibility. We run the damn world after all.

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NY Governor Says Partners Can Absolutely Be Present During Childbirth

New York Governor Andrew Cuomo issues executive order ensuring women can have birthing partners in the delivery room

Earlier this week, New York-Presbyterian Hospital and Mt. Sinai health care system made the controversial decision to ban birthing partners from delivery rooms in an attempt to stop the spread of coronavirus. Now, the governor of New York has issued an executive order, ensuring that pregnant individuals are allowed a birthing partner in the delivery room and that all hospitals must comply with the mandate.

New York-Presbyterian originally announced the shocking policy change on their website on March 23, stating that “no visitors including birthing partners and support persons are permitted for obstetric patients,” and called it a “necessary step to promote the safety of our new mothers and children.”

A number of petitions were created immediately after the announcement, and celebs like Ashley Graham took to social media, imploring their followers to sign petitions in the hopes of reversing this decision. The outcry worked and got the attention of Gov. Andrew Cuomo who made it impossible for any hospital in New York state to enforce such a draconian law.

“In no hospital in New York will a woman be forced to be alone when she gives birth,” Cuomo tweeted on Saturday, March 28, 2020, after issuing the executive order. “Not now, not ever.”

Issued with the State Department of Health, the executive order requires hospitals to allow women one support person and that person can be their spouse, doula, parent, midwife, or “another person they choose,” but the partner must stay in the room and cannot swap places with a secondary support person. The birthing partner will be screened for symptoms of COVID-19 — including an interview about their potential exposure to anyone who did test positive for COVID-19 — and given a temperature check every twelve hours.

“We updated that guidance to make that a directive,” Melissa DeRosa, secretary to the governor, said in a statement (via Romper). “Women do not have to be alone while they are giving birth and we’re going to reinforce that in an executive order.”

So far all the hospitals have stated that they will comply with the governor’s orders effective immediately.

“We have always — and will always — make these difficult decisions with the best of intentions and safety of the mother, baby and our staff as our guiding principle,” Renatt Brodsky, a spokeswoman for Mt. Sinai, said in a statement (via The New York Times).

We’re thrilled with the news, and not just that, but comforted by the knowledge that calling your reps, speaking out, and signing petitions can actually effect change.

Information about COVID-19 is rapidly changing, and Scary Mommy is committed to providing the most recent data in our coverage. With news being updated so frequently, some of the information in this story may have changed after publication. For this reason, we are encouraging readers to use online resources from local public health departments, the Centers for Disease Control, and the World Health Organization to remain as informed as possible.

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Ruth Bader Ginsburg Shuts Down Outrageous Louisiana Abortion Bill

RBG completely dismantled every point of this abortion access bill

A small abortion clinic located in Louisiana is challenging a 2014 state law that requires doctors performing abortions to get admitting privileges in a hospital within 30 miles of the cinic. The case went to the Supreme Court this week, with Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg challenging every point of the restrictive abortion bill like the master of law she is.

The bill, known as Act 620, demands admitting privileges for abortion providers so that an outpatient doctor has the right to admit patients to a hospital and then treat them if an emergency occurs. In addition to this barrier, a state-mandated 24-hour waiting period also makes accessing abortion services at the clinic more difficult.

Ginsburg, who has served almost 30 years on the Supreme Court and battled cancer four separate times, supports abortion rights. Now that the Supreme Court is Republican-dominated, she’s got her work cut out for her in terms of preventing the Court from rolling back rights that have been in place for decades. Luckily, Ginsburg does not back down.

Per CNN, RBG “persistently and systematically dissected each point” in the Louisiana case. She referenced a case the Court decided four years ago when the majority struck down a similar law out of Texas.

“There is not even a plausible conflict in this case because this court already held that admitting privileges served no medical benefit,” she said. Many women come from different states to seek abortion care at the Louisiana clinic in question, which is an important point.

Ginsburg noted that most of these abortions “don’t have any complications.” She noted that if a complication were to arise, it would likely happen once the woman returned home after the fact. “If she needs a hospital, it’s certainly not going to be the one near the clinic,” Ginsburg said. “If the woman has a problem, it will be her local hospital that she will need to go to for the care, not something 30 miles from the clinic, which does not have a necessary relationship to where she lives.”

This is what happens when a bunch of men who have never needed and will never need an abortion decide they “know” best and want to restrict healthcare for people who do need them.

Ginsburg reminded the court that abortion providers who do not perform obstetrics and gynecology wouldn’t qualify for admitting privileges because their patients rarely go to the hospital. Elizabeth Murrill, the Solicitor General of Louisiana, stood up to defend the law. RBG wasn’t having it.

“Most of the people who get abortions never have any need to go to a hospital, isn’t that so?” she asked. “You don’t dispute,” Ginsburg said, “that among medical procedures, first-trimester abortion is among the safest, far safer than childbirth.”

BOOM.

She also argued that the 30-mile requirement makes no sense, because, AGAIN, if a woman has a complication after an abortion (whether surgically-induced or orally), she’d go to her hospital, the one near her home, should complications occur after the fact.

The court remains divided, but one thing remains absolutely true: Restrictive abortion laws like this one have a disproportionate impact on women who do not have the financial or vehicular means to travel longer distances to obtain the procedure. It’s unconstitutional to impose these kinds of laws.

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Diet Culture Is Everywhere — Even In The Workplace

I went to a meeting recently for women in government. It was attended mostly by women who work in government, which I do, but I attended in my role as an elected woman in government, not as an employee. The meeting was held in a beautiful old Town Hall overlooking a classic New England style Town Common. There was a large group of women in attendance and the meeting consisted of an opening discussion on creating good habits, followed by two speakers meant to inspire us with their stories. The speakers, one a judge and one a retired school administrator, were excellent. They talked about breaking the glass ceiling, they talked about the pressures of being a working mother and juggling career opportunities and family commitments. They were relatable and engaging and inspiring.

The opening discussion, on the other hand, failed completely. And here’s why:

Despite the concept being a valid one — who doesn’t want to promote better habits? — the presentation of the concept was completely devoid of work and career habits. While that would be fine at a gathering of women for socializing, this was a gathering for women working in government. I expected empowering and motivating discussion. I expected ideas about how to get shit done at work, how to manage my time efficiently, how to be strong and empowered in a man’s world.

Rather than any of that, though, every example they provided on creating habits was related to weight management or weight loss. They talked about sleeping in your gym clothes so that you will go to the gym as soon as you wake up. They talked about requesting a takeout container at a restaurant and putting half of your meal in the container as soon as it arrives at the table. They talked about exercise buddies and weight loss apps to track food and using dry shampoo to avoid having to do your hair and on and on. While I’m certain their intentions were good, it felt like an epic fail to me.

I couldn’t help but thinking, if this were a room full of men talking about good habits they would not be talking about weight loss. They would not be concerned about how they look in a particular dress or how to make time to do their hair after they finish at the gym and are on their way to work. Instead, they would be talking about ways to tackle challenging assignments. They would be talking about using good habits to secure promotions. They would be brainstorming about actions to take and ways to get ahead. And they would order a cheeseburger at lunch and not a salad.

I’ve been considering my feelings about this a lot lately. I’ve started a blog post about this more than once and then deleted it because this is a sensitive subject. But today I’m going for it. It ties in with some work I’m doing on body acceptance and vulnerability and also the challenges I face being the only woman on a three-member elected board. And it makes me think that women need to rise up and lean in and change the way we’re communicating with each other. I mean, there I was in a room full of strong women leaders, and the women in charge were talking about dieting. In a moment when the audience was entirely female. In a moment when there would be no mansplaining, no competition to be heard or get your ideas across, no criticism for showing emotion or using the wrong tone of voice, they chose to talk about body image.

Sigh. We can do so much better than this. We deserve so much more than this.

Friends, we need a call to arms. We need to stop squandering our opportunities when we’re together. We need to not shame each other because of weight or size. We need to break the cycle of internalized sexism and stop believing that successful women must be skinny, that strong women are bossy and ruthless, and feminists are man-hating bitches. We need to stop judging each other for how we look and what we eat. Instead, we need to support each other, we need to be vulnerable with each other, and we need to  become role models and mentors for the next generation of women. I think we do that by demonstrating leadership, by advancing in our careers, and by being our authentic selves.

I’m taking back my power. I hope you’ll join me.

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Caring For Aging Parents Still Typically Falls On Women

How many times have you thought to yourself, “Someday when I have more time…” or “When things slow down…” and then you actually look at your life and laugh. Because that’s never going to happen. The exhausting baby/toddler days spill into the school years full of homework and school projects and baseball games and band practice. And then all of a sudden you’re on college tours, you’re dyeing your grays, you have to crack your back when you wake up every morning, and you wonder why you never had time to do that thing you were going to do.

Now add in caring for your aging parents—a reality for families everywhere. And, like everything else, this is yet another responsibility that typically falls on women’s shoulders.

Women who are mothering their own kids through adolescent drama and learning to drive and high school breakups. Women who often work their own full-time jobs and try to squeeze in a workout or healthy cooking now and then because they actually do want to take better care of themselves. Women who manage the budget and pay the bills and make sure to get the oil changed in the car and take the kids to the dentist and schedule parent-teacher conferences.

And, also, women who must manifest more hours in the day to care for their parents who need their help as they grow older. (Which, to clarify, is something many of us very much want to do.) We love our parents and want to ensure they are properly cared for. But at a time in our lives when we are busier than ever, this responsibility can seem overwhelming, mentally, physically and financially. Especially because it tends to fall on women far more than men.

The Atlantic writer Ada Calhoun recently penned an article that accurately portrayed the “tug-of-war” Gen-X women are stuck in. She tells the story of how on a very emotional, high-stakes day when her 13-year-old son was taking an entrance exam to try to get into a specialized high school, she was also meeting with landlords to find a new apartment for her parents (one of whom has cancer).

“On that day, and just about every day these past few months, I had to choose between caring for one family member or another. With so many crises under way, caring for myself hasn’t really been on the table,” she writes.

However, like most women, she doesn’t really “choose” between either family member, but instead, does it all. She hops from the entrance exam to the apartment tour and back to meet her son.

The one person she doesn’t choose, however, is herself. Because there is no time.

Calhoun’s article explains why caring for their parents is different for Gen-X, including the fact that more women of our generation work full time than our mothers did when they were caring for their own parents so many years ago.

Also, our parents are living longer than previous generations, which, although a blessing, means “more treatments, more medications, more things to be looking out for. It’s a lot of pressure.”

Throw in the steady increase in cost to care for an elderly relative and the fact that many Boomers weren’t great about saving money, and now you’re adding financial stress onto Gen-X women who are trying to save for their own retirement and pay for their kids to go to college.

“Women’s 40s and 50s are ideally a time to find their true calling and focus on themselves,” Amy Goyer, AARP’s national family and caregiving expert and the author of Juggling Life, Work, and Caregiving, says. But when the average caregiver of an aging relative is a 49-year-old working woman, they don’t have time. And that frankly sucks.

We give so much up during those early baby and toddlers days. So many women put everything on hold, dreaming of the day the kids are in school or at least not attached to our boobs and needing their butts wiped anymore. Dreaming of when everyone is grown and off doing their own thing and we finally can have a moment to do our thing—even if we don’t know what that is yet. So many of us watch our husbands thrive in their careers while we take care of things at home, dreaming that “someday, I’ll get to work on me again.”

Only by the time we have a glimmer of that freedom, we are right back where we started, except we are caring for our parents this time around.

So why is this? Why is yet another responsibility consistently falling on women? AARP confirms that although more men are stepping up these days to take care of children and the elderly, the onus still tends to be placed on women—who are historically seen as more nurturing and who tend to be more willing to put themselves and their careers on the back burner.

An AARP article entitled “When Genders Collide While Caregiving” tells the story of three siblings caring for their aging mother. Only it’s really two sisters who do all the driving, feeding, and catering to her. Their brother insists he can’t take time off work. Yet, he still receives praise from his mother if he calls once a week.

This feels like a slap in the face to his sisters, understandably, and is a common story that ends up dividing siblings as their parents age.

The truth is, family caregiving, whether it’s for children or elderly relatives, is still seen as women’s work—even well into the 21st century. And while women do the bulk of it, they get little to no recognition, as it’s simply expected of them. Hmmm… that story sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Just like when women care tirelessly for their kids with no praise (or even face criticism when their kids don’t behave perfectly) and dads get a ticker-tape parade for merely changing a diaper, the same happens on the other end of the spectrum.

“Female caregivers are typically acknowledged as ‘just doing their duty,’ whereas men tend to be lauded for engaging in even minor care activities,” AARP reports.

Awesome.

And what happens? Women continue to burn themselves out on both ends—caring for their families at home and their parents as well, leaving nothing in the middle but exhaustion, stress, and resentment.

This has to change. We cannot continue to expect women to do it all. It’s unrealistic, unfair, and frankly, we’re tired of living through double standard after double standard our entire lives. We want to care for our parents, just as they cared for us. But we can’t take all of this on too. We can’t be expected to shoulder yet another stressful, emotional responsibility that should be shared with our husbands, brothers, and other male relatives.

So step it up, men. Do not expect the women in your lives to care for everyone on their own. Do your part, (which, by the way, is more than calling your mom once a week), and don’t expect a gold star either. Lord knows we don’t.

And women, please don’t fall into the martyrdom trap. There’s no award at the end for sacrificing yourself. Expect the rest of your family to join you on a level playing field where everyone contributes. Demand it. We only get so many years here on Earth. If you spend every moment of every day caring for others and never for yourself, will you look back and be happy with that life? Will you wish you spent some of your 40s and 50s finding yourself? Finding your calling? Discovering new passions? Or will you resent that you gave all of yourself to everyone else so that there was nothing left but an exhausted, depleted shell who only resembled the person you used to be?

Our parents need us. Just as we will need our kids someday. And that’s one of the beautiful pieces of this circle we call life. But it’s our life too. We can’t forget that.

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Moms Stage ‘Nurse In’ At Chick-Fil-A After Woman Shamed For Breastfeeding There

New mom takes to Facebook to share story of how she was harassed by Chick-fil-A manager for quietly breastfeeding her daughter

Despite their recent announcement that they would stop supporting anti-LGBT charities, Chick-fil-A consistently falls on the wrong side of history. Earlier this week, a manager at a Chick-fil-A in Athens, Georgia told a nursing woman in front of the entire dining room that she needed to “cover up” and when the mom pressed the manager about it, she was publicly shamed for doing so and scolded until she left. However, the next day, the woman and a group of friends returned to the Chick-Fil-A and held a “nurse in,” proudly breastfeeding their children while eating chicken sandwiches.

Earlier this week, Samantha Dawn McIntosh went to Chick-fil-A with her 9-year-old niece and 7-month-old daughter. The family sat in a back booth while McIntosh nursed her young daughter and as the new mom later wrote on Facebook, “absolutely no skin was showing.”

Despite all this, and despite all of the tireless strides women make every day to normalize breastfeeding, the store manager stepped in, saying that McIntosh needed to “cover up.”

“Imagine my shock and surprise when I am sitting at Chick-fil-a yesterday with my 9 year old niece and my daughter (breastfeeding) and the manager walks up out of nowhere and tries to hand me her jacket saying someone has complained and would prefer if I cover up because of the other children in the restaurant…please keep in mind that I am wearing a nursing tank top under a large long sleeve shirt,” McIntosh wrote on Facebook.

 

McIntosh said that the manager’s note turned into a “scene,” so she decided to stop feeding her daughter. But as she sat there, she got angry.

“As I sit there in this family friendly restaurant I start to simmer. I’ll admit it. I got angry. Mostly because my niece started asking questions about why I couldn’t feed my daughter. Why would someone ask me to cover up? Why would a baby eating in any way offend someone to the point where it takes a manager approaching me about the situation?! So I got mad,” she added.

A fellow mom jumped to McIntosh’s defense and together they spoke to another employee, but the manager returned to break it up.

“[The manager] comes back TO ME to inform me that they have every right to ask me to cover up when I’m nursing my child and that I should just leave it at that. Which I planned on doing because I wasn’t going to make a big scene of it in front of my niece…until she came back to me and said that, because I wasn’t even causing a problem and she had now not only embarrassed me once by telling me in front of half the restaurant that I needed to cover up to nurse but CAME BACK AND EMBARRASSED ME AGAIN by telling me to let it go in front of half the restaurant!!”

The owner of that Chick-fil-A location has since apologized to McIntosh and the next day, McIntosh and a crew of local moms returned to the location for a “nurse in.”

A local ABC News affiliate in Georgia has photos of the moms casually breastfeeding their kids and enjoying some waffle fries, not bothering anyone. It is legal in this country for a mom to breastfeed in any location and on that night, those moms exercised that right.

“They pride themselves on their Christian beliefs and their family values,” one local mom at the Nurse-In told WJBF about the fast food restaurant. “Clearly some people disagree with publicly breastfeeding…It’s ridiculous because you see people with summer clothes, which is fine, but I can’t sit here and discreetly breastfeed without making someone uncomfortable.”

We love this show of solidarity amongst women. Chick-Fil-A, do better.

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Annabella Sciorra Testifies In Court That Harvey Weinstein Raped Her

Annabella Sciorra shares chilling details of the night she says Harvey Weinstein raped her

Today, actress Annabella Sciorra gave emotional testimony about the night she alleges Harvey Weinstein came into her apartment and raped her. The Sopranos star says he raped and sexually assaulted her in the winter of 1993-1994. She first spoke out about the attack over two years ago when several women were accusing the disgraced mogul of similar crimes.

According to CCN, during her testimony, Sciorra said that Weinstein entered her apartment and chased her before pinning her to the bed and raping her. She says she tried to run to the bathroom, but Weinstein “kept coming at me.” Sciorra told jurors, “I felt overpowered because he was very big.”

While the alleged attack on Sciorra is too long ago for Weinstein to be prosecuted due to the statute of limitations, her testimony is relevant to two other charges of predatory sexual assault. He can be convicted on those charges if prosectors can prove he assaulted multiple women.

Sciorra testified that after a dinner in Manhattan, Weinstein gave her a ride home. She was in a nightgown and getting ready for bed when she heard a knock — it was Weinstein and Sciorra says he then pushed his way into her apartment. She says he looked around to see if anyone was there besides her, unbuttoning his shirt and eventually dragging her into the bedroom. Sciorra testified that she fought him until he held her hands above her head and raped her, later ejaculating on her bed and nightgown. She says that afterward, he told her, “I have perfect timing.”

He also performed oral sex on her and Sciorra says her body “shut down” so she didn’t fight it. She says he told her, “This is for you.”

Sciorra never told police when it happened and says she didn’t tell anyone else at the time either. “I thought he was an okay guy. I felt confused,” Sciorra said. “I felt… like I wished I had never opened the door.”

Assistant District Attorney Meghan Hast told jurors that after the attack, Sciorra lost weight and began cutting herself and drinking. She testified that she would cut her fingers and hands, smearing the blood onto a wall she says she was painting “blood red.” She says she would smear the blood and then cover it with gold leaf. When questioned, she couldn’t explain why she did it.

Sciorra says she confronted Weinstein at a dinner weeks after the alleged attack and that his demeanor was “very menacing.” She says he told her, “That’s what all the nice Catholic girls say,” and then leaned in saying, “this remains between you and I.” Sciorra called the conversation “threatening” and says she was afraid.

Less than a year after the alleged attack, Hast says Weinstein found Sciorra in London while she was there filming a movie. He allegedly sent messages and cars for her, but she wouldn’t respond, so he showed up to her room where he became angry that she wouldn’t open the door. Sciorra even asked a producer to move her to another hotel because she was afraid of Weinstein.

Years later, they had one last encounter when Sciorra discovered Weinstein was staying in the hotel room next door to hers at the Cannes Film Festival. She alleges that she opened the door one morning to find him standing in front of her in his underwear holding a bottle of baby oil and a video tape. She says she ran for the phone on her room, hitting the call buttons, summoning hotel employees to her aid. Weinstein eventually left.

Weinstein’s lawyers are pointing out that Sciorra never called 911 or tried to find the doorman at her apartment the night of the attack. They’re even pressing her for the exact day, though we know from Christine Blasey Ford’s powerful testimony against Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh that survivors of sexual assault often remember every detail of what happened to them even if they can’t recall a specific date — or even specific year.

Sciorra is one of six women expected to share testimony of Weinstein attacking them.

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The ‘Mansplaining Convention’ Is A Thing And It Promises To ‘Make Women Great Again’

Tickets to the Mansplaining Convention are $2,000 for three days of pure hell

If you’re looking to make all of your nightmares come true, then look no further than the Mansplaining Convention. This is an actual thing occurring in May 2020, with real tickets and speakers and everything. Tickets are being sold to women only, naturally, so the all-male panel can really drive home the mansplaining thing. Because who wouldn’t want to be spoken to condescendingly for hours on end by a group of men!

Organizers say it is “destined to be the mansplaining event of the century.” The convention will take place over three days in May in Orlando. The purpose of the convention (other than to make the female attendees want to scream into the void) is to “make women great again.”

Oh, and tickets are $1,999. So yes, for TWO THOUSAND DOLLARS you, too, can go and get a migraine while listening to a bunch of men proudly “mansplain” to you what’s “wrong” with you.

If you can stomach it, here’s the trailer that lets you know exactly what you can expect from this expensive circle-jerk.

If that still wasn’t a clear enough indicator that this entire event promises to not only be the most hellish event on earth but also extremely boring, here’s how the convention website is “selling” it:

“The 22 Convention: Make Women Great Again makes it debut in our founding city of Orlando, Florida. Women today are being taught to act more like men. Where has that led us? Skyrocketing rates of divorce, depression, dysfunction, and America at the #1 spot in the world for single motherhood. No longer will you have to give in to toxic bullying feminist dogma and go against your ancient, biological nature as a woman.”

Listen, if a woman chooses single motherhood, that’s one thing (and it’s absolutely no one’s business). If she’s left to raise a child on her own by a hit-it-and-quit-it loser, maybe you need a new convention. Because it surely isn’t “toxic feminist dogma” that’s responsible for divorce and dysfunction.

Imagine enduring this nonsense for three days. Three days. Full of “iconic speakers gathered from around the worldwide manosphere community to dramatically improve your life and femininity.”

Yeah. Uh-huh.

Oh, that’s not all. They blame “feminist anti-motherhood propaganda” for poverty, crime, mental health issues, and the overall decline of women today. That’s quite a list!

There’s more:

“Generations of women have been lied to with ‘you can have it all,’ a clever way of tricking them into de-prioritizing motherhood until 90% of their eggs are dead by 30.”

The “de-prioritization” of motherhood certainly couldn’t have to do with a shitty economy, the burden of debt like student loans and fickle credit scores, or not having supportive and equal partners in life and emotional labor. No, no. It’s all the fault of militant feminists!  Thank heavens for this conference to help us all see the light!

For the small price of two grand, you can also be body-shamed at this conference. Why? Well because men don’t want a fat woman! “Taking good care of your body is beautiful in process and outcome. Men admire healthy, fit women. They are after all sizing you up for reproduction, and your decisions will be passed on to your children through the choices you make via epigenetics.”

If you want to learn how to be the “ideal wife” complete with an eating disorder and low self-esteem while men berate you into thinking you’re somehow less than a whole ass human without them, by all means, spend an obscene amount of money on this trash fire event.

You know what else Orlando has instead of a group of assholes dishing out abuse in the name of patriarchy? Disney World. And Harry Potter World. Go do that instead.

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Amy Schumer Gets Real About Pressure To Breastfeed, Says It’s ‘Not For Me’

Amy Schumer opens up about her decision to switch son Gene to formula after a month of breastfeeding

Amy Schumer has been completely open, vulnerable, and — quite frankly — badass, throughout her entire pregnancy and journey through new motherhood. She flashed her c-section scar at the paparazzi, she posted a breast pump selfie to Instagram, and in a new interview with the Informed Pregnancy Podcast, she got real about breastfeeding and pumping and why it just wasn’t for her.

Schumer revealed in the podcast that she struggled to breastfeed, she struggled to pump, and finally, she just realized “this is not for me.”

“I wanted him to get the colostrum,” Schumer said of the antibody-rich milk moms produce immediately following delivery. “We had a lactation expert come over. He didn’t latch and I just didn’t feel that push to make that happen. Then I pumped for like the first month. Then I was like, ‘Not for me.’ … This is not for me and I didn’t want to do it.”

After a month, she switched son Gene to formula, specifically the German brand Holle, on the recommendation of tennis pro Serena Williams, and said “it just has less sugar and he did great on that” though she noted that Gene was also fine with Similac and “was meeting his milestones” on the popular formula.

Ultimately, Schumer said she just felt “so much pressure to breastfeed” but realized that it’s “all in your head” and thinks women should do whatever works for them.

“You matter and it’s going to be better for your baby that you’re okay,” she said. “All generations were raised on formula.”

Aware of her platform as a celebrity, Schumer continues to be a vocal and empowered new mom. Just last week, Schumer shared a photo of a form at a doctor’s office and in the section where she was meant to give a “reason” for having a c-section, Schumer simply wrote “my choice.”

Schumer actually talked about her c-section in the same podcast episode as well, where she clarified that the severity of her endometriosis completely took vaginal birth off the table.

“I was throwing up through the first hour of my c-section,” Schumer explained. “It’s supposed to take about an hour and a half — mine took over three hours because of my endometriosis, and that was really scary.” She added that the doctors were “amazed” that she could carry a child, considering the seriousness of her endo diagnosis.

We are always here for Schumer’s shame-free attitude and approach to motherhood.

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